On friendship
Laugh and the world laughs with you; Weep, and you weep alone. -Ella Wheeler in the poem "Solitude" (1883) While this is a famous line that makes sense at a superficial level, my experience in life has taught me that this isn't true. When you want to complain about how things aren't going well and are generally negative, you'll find many people who will commiserate with you and allow you to vent. They might themselves vent to give you company. I find that people generally tend to be tolerant and sympathetic of the misery around them. This is somehow especially true in academia. People love to complain, and people love being in the company of those who complain. I myself got into such loops but have worked actively on myself to get out of such negativity cycles and focus on the positives. I have more work to do on this front still, but I am happy with the steps I've taken to achieve this. Your "friends" are not your friends if they will not be genu...